Beating the Bullies

Do you know what “Border Bullies” are? They are people who show up to stop you from pursuing your dreams once you’ve made up your mind to leave your comfort zone. At least this is how Bruce Wilkinson describes them in this bestselling book The Dream Giver.

“Border Bullies” say things like, “I doubt you can do that,” and, “why do you want to do that?” Because “Border Bullies” are usually loved ones, or close to you, their words can hurt and discourage you.

In their minds, “Border Bullies” believe they are showing concern for you. What if you set out on your journey and fail? What if something bad happens to you? What if you never return from your journey? These are all worries that swim around in the minds of “Borders Bullies”.

The problem is that those worries are not your reality, and if you let them consume you, you’ve failed before you even started.

So how do you deal with “Border Bullies”? By not allowing their fears, worries, and anxieties to become yours. “Border Bullies” mean well and their words may have value, but in the end it’s your life and dream and no one can stand in the way of you becoming who you were created to be.

Tonight’s lesson is to always make it a point to listen to people and make a conscious effort to find value in their words. However, at the end of the day make up your own mind and look inside of yourself for truth and guidance.

This is a great book to read.